Making a difference

by Nazri Yahya on 5/04/2014
Once upon a time, there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work.

One day, as he was walking along the shore, he looked down the beach and saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself at the thought of someone who would dance to the day, and so, he walked faster to catch up.

As he got closer, he noticed that the figure was that of a young man, and that what he was doing was not dancing at all. The young man was reaching down to the shore, picking up small objects, and throwing them into the ocean.

He came closer still and called out “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?”

The young man paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean.”

“I must ask, then, why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?” asked the somewhat startled wise man.

To this, the young man replied, “The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them in, they’ll die.”

Upon hearing this, the wise man commented, “But, young man, do you not realize that there are miles and miles of beach and there are starfish all along every mile? You can’t possibly make a difference!”

At this, the young man bent down, picked up yet another starfish, and threw it into the ocean. As it met the water, he said, “It made a difference for that one.” Loren Eiseley

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What matters the most in life

by Nazri Yahya on 10/03/2014

Read Quote of Drew Young Shin’s answer to What are the questions that most people don’t ask themselves enough? on Quora

A reminder to all, what matters the most in life is the relationships you have created.

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She got fat.

by Nazri Yahya on 10/03/2014

Read Quote of Michelle Roses’ answer to How can I kindly tell my girlfriend that she has let herself go and I find her less physically attractive? on Quora

I don’t know where to begin as I read her story. I begin to question myself, are humans that superficial? What does it really mean to be in a relationship? To satisfy one’s physical lust? In words of Lana del Rey, “Will you still love me when I’m no longer young and beautiful?”

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TED Talk on monogamy

by Nazri Yahya on 26/02/2014

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An idea permeates our modern view of relationships: that men and women have always paired off in sexually exclusive relationships. But before the dawn of agriculture, humans may actually have been quite promiscuous. Author Christopher Ryan walks us through the controversial evidence that human beings are sexual omnivores by nature, in hopes that a more nuanced understanding may put an end to discrimination, shame and the kind of unrealistic expectations that kill relationships.

Is monogamy too much to ask for?

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Are we meant to be in a monogamous relationship?

by Nazri Yahya on 24/12/2013

Watching cartoons has been an integral part of my childhood. There was so much life to it. Adorable animated characters, melodious catchy tunes and of course, the happy endings.

Happy endings extend beyond cartoons, and made it’s way onto the silver screens. It’s something we dream off, something we sacrifice ourselves for and something that we put first even though we all look for heaven, in words of Lana Del Rey.

I watched a movie called Up by Disney Pixar. It was beautiful, in a way, magical, and possibly too good to be true. Carl and Ellie loved each other. Deeply. They were not well off, but they were happy because they have each other.

But sadly, that’s not always the case in life.

A friend of mine downloaded those location based dating apps, both of us were astounded by sheer amount of married people who are looking for one night stand. It changed my perception of relationships. What happened to staying loyal and faithful?

It made me wonder, is monogamy a predisposed belief or do some of us do it willingly? After all, Islam allows a man to be married up to four wives. What does this tells us?

It also made me question, what really keeps a couple going for years and years? And I figured that they are possibly two things that really binds a married couple together.

The first, kids. When a married couple have kids, one cannot simply pack up and move on to a new relationship. It is not morally right to leave your kids, and there’s the issue of being a role model for your kids.

The second, legal issues. Married couples are bounded by the laws of marriage under their respective constitution. Divorcing isn’t a simple procedure. It involves legal fees, and the complexity of it increase exponentially if a shared house and kids are placed into the equation.

What about the fate of couples who are infertile? What about the fate of couples who are infertile and don’t believe in the concept of marriage? Are they doomed? Can they easily pack up and move on?

I had a conversation about this with a friend of mine and he said,

I’ve come to accept there is no one way a relationship should work. The only thing that is most important is who you want to go home with each night and who you want to grow old with. Side dishes are temporary.

Perhaps, it might be better for us not to pry too much into our significant other’s personal life, they always say, ignorance is bliss.

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Nostalgic moments

by Nazri Yahya on 19/12/2013

The other day, I was at Khoo Teck Puat Hospital, a place where I spent the majority of my 2 years in National Service as a Medic in Singapore Civil Defence Force, SCDF.

I alighted at the usual bus stop, a scene that is far too familiar. I made my way to the hospital, noticing how much things have changed, and how much of it had stood the test of time.

It was great catching up with the Paramedics, Medics and EMTs whose faces are no stranger to me.

I realised that I miss working there. Standing outside the A&E, overlooking the empty field, hearing the distant ambulance siren getting progressively louder, and the sense of exhilaration when the ambulance arrived. Best of all, the people that I worked with.

Oddly enough, when I was still in NS, I couldn’t wait to get out.

Nonetheless, there’s no denying that NS played a significant part in my life.

Cheers to that.

But now, the next chapter of my life is here. It’s only right to fully embrace and appreciate it before it’s over.

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On being rich

by Nazri Yahya on 25/10/2013

Our perception is largely tainted by the media.

Envy filled us as celebrities strut down the red carpet in designer clothes and driving around town in their luxury cars.

And most of us can only say, I wish that is me.

But I believe that there are two sides to every story.

Money has proven to be indispensable in our superficial life. It forms the basis for everything in this temporary life. I couldn’t agree more.

And some of us can never have enough of money. We dream of living the lifestyle of the rich and famous. We dream of driving down Orchard Road in a luxury car, revving the engine and getting envious stares from everyone.

But it comes to a point when you have everything and you ask yourself, what’s next?

Have you questioned yourself, do you think those celebrities are really happy? Or do you think they are flashing their shining white teeth because they have to for the sake of the media?

When I was young and naive, I believed that money is the answer to everything, it can solve all the problems in the world. The last few years of my life have been monumental. It changed my perspective of life. I have truly learned that money cannot buy happiness. But it’s hard to explain this. One needs to head out, discover life, experience things and find out that there is more to life than just being rich.

And I couldn’t agree more that life itself contains an abundance beautiful moments than just short euphoric moments such as getting a luxury car.

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Unremarkably average

by Nazri Yahya on 6/10/2013
11 ways to be unremarkably average.Chris Guillebeau
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Computer uptime

by Nazri Yahya on 3/10/2013

System Uptime

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Kindness is imperative

by Nazri Yahya on 30/09/2013
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.Marc and Angel
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